I clearly remember all three of my children hitting the separation anxiety stage between six and nine months of age. To be left with their very capable and very loving father sent them into a tailspin. We read up on it; only a phase, very typical, there's a new awareness of the world and it something they will overcome.
So now, my three and a half year old is experiencing what I call Secondary Separation Anxiety (SSA). I'm sure I'm not the only parent out there who has lived through this. My youngest child is outgoing, secure, friendly and assertive. What a surprise to me that last month she started crying hysterically when I dropped her off at preschool! It is SO out of character for her. So I find myself giving her one more kiss goodbye, taking her to the bathroom one more time, sitting in class until all her buddies are there. In short, I'm enabling her behavior. Is it because she's my youngest? Does she feel not adequately loved? Is it because I feel guilty that I'm going on errands or to the gym? I know she has calmed down once I'm out of view, but the SSA is something I was totally unprepared for.
If you're a parent who has experienced this and have any words of advice, I'd love to hear it!
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